Waiting and Contingency Plans

This Tuesday as I went to work I was thinking, "This is the week. This is the week we get the call for an interview."

Yet here I sit on Thursday, no call, and our social worker is off Fridays so my wishful thinking was just that instead of a premonition. Oh well, they said it could take some time.

I am a planner, though, have I mentioned that? So already I'm thinking about next year at this time. I posed the question to Mike, "what should we do if fall 2011 we haven't even been extended an interview?" Next fall is significant because it's when we'd have to renew our FBI finger print check for the third time. So it's kind of like an anniversary.

Here's what we've come up with thus far:
1) Stay on the waiting children list
Pros: All the work is done except for the new FBI Check and we felt like this was the option for us so it wouldn't seem right to abandon it
Cons:It's a lot of waiting and if we haven't even had a chance to be interviewed we might not feel too optimistic

2) Go on another adoption list for newborn babies
Pros: If we ever get one, we get a baby, and babies are just too cute
Cons: Could be just as long of a wait if not longer plus the fear a mom would want her baby back plus paperwork starts from scratch not to mention the costs

3) Reconsider invitro
Pros: We'd still be young enough that our odds of success would be higher, we'd get a baby that would be genetically connected to us and the baby cuteness factor
Cons: The overwhelming cost and more importantly both of us not really feeling it is the right option for us...so this probably wouldn't happen

4) Consider international adoption
Pros: Odds of adopting a baby are higher and seeing another country is cool
Cons: Need to start all the adoption paperwork, again; the cost; not to mention it just doesn't feel right

5) Go off all the lists and become resolved to loving our friend's and family's children
Pros: Assuming our jobs remain stable - we'd get to travel aplenty, early retirement, potentially living in another state for a while before we retire, classes at The Loft for me
Cons: Well, i think the con is obvious, all those other things are nice, but they aren't children, which is probably the biggest con of all

So rather than drive myself crazy, I'm trying to put away the part of me that wants go plan and live our lovely life.