Since we've known Rosie I have been impressed how in stores she never asked the dreaded, "can I have this?"
Until Saturday.
Saturday during a quick trip to Cub, even ice cube trays were tempting to Rosie. Every isle had some junky trinket she wanted and pleaded for, swearing she had the allowance for or would pay me back for.
I used to worry i'd have a tough time telling Rosie no when this happened. She's been through so much and has never been spoiled. I also think she knew as a foster kid, the answer would be no and to some extent she attributed that no to her self worth. As demonstrated by her often saying "because I am worth it" when she found out we spent a few extra cents on chocolate milk over white.
But when she's asking for a bunch of stuff that will be garbage in days, it's easy to say no while all my psycho analysis and soft spots fly out the window.
Plus, spoiling Rose with money doesn't accomplish much. Material possesions won't increase her self worth in the long run. Additionally, not teaching her how to budget her money could have lasting negative consequences as she grows older. Or that's what I tell myself as I went from isle to isle with a 10-year-old who's looking at me like I'm the worst mom, ever.
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I get this a lot with Skylar and Ani. They hear no, so much more than they'd like. Most of the time my response is, "No, that's not on the list." or "No, I'm not buying toys today." Or remind them before we even go into the store that we're there to buy 'X' and nothing else. Curbs some of their pleas. :)
However, somehow we have gotten into the habit of the two of them sharing a box of animal crackers as we shop. It usually keeps the peace long enough for me to get whatever I need and get out. Usually. :)
Thanks, Kelly. Rosie isn't into sweets much, but maybe I can promise her something out of a vending machine. of course, she's at an age where I can leave her in the car with her DS, which I might just do as well.
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