Let me back up.
First, Rose has been labeled with multiple diagnoses. They're dead on, by the way. Plus, by understanding needs related to the labels--combined with the help of great advancement in psychological medicine--we've seen Rose make significant strides. Labels here don't give Rose an excuse at all. They're positive communication vehicles for us as her guardians. Yayyyy for labels in this instance.
Enter the Chrome Book...
A chrome book with no real filters handed to a kiddo with boundary issues, a family history that's scary, at best, and a lack of value in education.
Enter the helicopter parents...yes, we've been labeled.
Labeled as such because we review Rose's history daily and notice trends. We call or email the school frequently to ask how or why so much time was spent browsing Harry Potter sites instead of doing Algebra.
Yet, still the stupid label stings. Especially when we have to work so hard to protect her. Especially when people like social workers who get our kiddo say we are doing the right things. Still, most others don't get it, and so we're hit with a label.
Plus, if we decide to let go and give rose "normal" privileges of a 13-year-old she creates a Facebook profile using her birth name, applies no security to he page and includes our street address. That really happened. We just found it. Scary.
So for those of you asking me to pretend I have a "normal" kid, the advice is appreciated but that label is least helpful of all. She is beautiful because she survived what most normal kids can't and has intelligence beyond her years. She is amazing. She isn't normal. If she was, she'd be in a mental health ward.
So I'll take it... Helicopter parent.. This tiger mom would rather have a well adjusted kid who I've healed, than a mess who I pretended was "just like" a "fully adjusted" kiddo.
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